God is Good

I've complained about so much in the past, but I am truly grateful that God has continued to bless with me in many ways.

I just wanted to take this time to say THANK YOU for all that you have done for me and continue to do.

Friends...

I can count on ONE hand how many close friends I have. And trust me, I'm not using all five fingers. The fact is, although I know a lot of people, not too many people know the real me. Not too many people know my story.

I will not use this post to provide you with a bio. I will, however, take this time to speak about FRIENDS! Me being a 20-something black female in DC, it's so easy to meet new people, make new connections, etc. I can almost do this with my eyes close. And through these connections, I may be able to make a “friend” or two. But as times goes by, so do the friendship.

This seems to be the typical story amongst people in my age group. As with many things in life, things fall apart. And most of the time, it’s not because someone did something wrong to the other. I am very aware that sh*t happens.

One of the things I’ve noticed is this idea that just because it’s on facebook/twitter/myspace it has to be true. I honestly believe that social networking has changed friendships. People read your facebook page and think they know everything there is to know about you. I honestly still believe that the majority of us have an online personality. And most of the time, it doesn’t really match with what someone sees in person. I’ll save that particular topic for another time though.

I remember a while back I posted a quiz online with basic questions about me. Questions such as where I was born; where I went to school; etc. NO ONE GOT more than a 50%. I'm not expecting everyone to score 100%, but damn.

I recently spoke to this guy that I’ve known for years and he asked if I knew when his birthday was. So I quickly went on facebook in hopes of finding this information. Big FAIL! He informed me that he closed his facebook account. So of course I felt like a donkey's behind because I relied so much on this website to give me all the information I needed to know about those that I considered a "friend".

It is possible that the definition of friendship as I see it, is not necessarily the way others do. Friendship (to me) is more than hanging out with someone. A friend won’t put you to the side when they find themselves romantically involved with someone. A friend just calls to say hello and talk for the sake of talking, rather than calling to see if you’re available to go to a club/lounge/etc.

I am very comfortable with the small group of people I call my friends, because I do know that they care about my best interests.

Doing Too Much Too Soon

Ever encountered that guy that's doing too much too soon? You know the type! The one that you went on a date with and he decides to call, text, facebook, tweet and email you all within a 24 hour period. The worst part about this is imagine if you did enjoy the first date and you were looking forward to seeing him again, but the constant communication is just way too overwhelming, so you put him on your "DO NOT RESPOND" list.

In this day and age, we are filled with various ways to communicate with an individual. Just recently, there was this a surge of users on an instant messenger known as kik. (I did try kik for about a week and I quickly realized it just wasn't for me). Kik, like blackberry messenger (BBM) allows the user to see when your message was sent, delivered and read. This makes ignoring someone a little akward. Honestly, I could really give a rat's behind if you know that I read your message. If I do not respond, please don't send me another message. At this point, you're becoming a nuisance.

And that's the thing. If I don't respond via text, please do not send me a facebook message, email, tweet, etc. I'm not saying you need to wait for me to respond, but really I'm saying you need to wait on me to respond. Most of the time, I'm usually doing something when I receive the message so I am unable to carry on a convo. But I do my best to get back to you.

I know the post may come off as a bit harsh, but this is one of my biggest pet peeves. Although there are various ways to communicate with one person, that does not mean you should use all forms of communication to say hello. A simple text may do the the trick. Or just ask the individual what's their preferred method of communicating. Maybe there's a woman out there that enjoys that. I'm just not that one..

I've Learned (Part Deux)

"The first time someone shows you who they are, believe them."
-Maya Angelou

Another quote from the GREAT Maya Angelou. To tag on to the last post, I've learned to trust my first instinct. Why am I surprise when sh*t falls apart further down the line? The signs were there. Why did i choose to ignore it? It's the part of life we really have no concrete answer to.

You know this thing is bad, but yet and still you chose to go with it anyway. You know nothing was going to come out of it, yet you still tagged along for the ride (pun intended). I am definitely learning to be more selective in the people that I choose to bring into my life. I have not always made the right choices in the past when it came to men. And you know what, it's not always their fault. I take SOME of the blame. I close my eyes when the signs are there. I continue the "relationship" although, it really wasn't much of one. When will I learn? Oh wait, I am learning! :)

I've Learned...

"I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I've learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he/she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you'll miss them when they're gone from your life. I've learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands; you need to be able to throw something back. I've learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be one. I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I've learned that I still have a lot to learn. I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."
- Maya Angelou

Nothing more to say. Her words says it all.

Right/Wrong

As I sit around waiting for Mr. Right, I'm constantly approached by Mr. Wrong. Maybe it's my fault for allowing these, Mr. Wrong's into my life.

Late Night Thoughts

You give me a feeling that I never felt before
And I deserve it, I think I deserve it
It's becoming something that's impossible to ignore
And I can't take it
I was wondering maybe
Could I make you my baby
If we do the unthinkable would it make us look crazy
If you ask me I'm ready

- Alicia Keys "Un-Thinkable (I'm Ready)"

I absolutely love this song! Aside from Alicia Keys beautiful voice, the words just speak so much to me. I'm all for it! If you're both feeling it (at the moment), why not go for it! Why wait? Nothing in life is guaranteed! Although I am not condoning irresponsible behavior, I do believe that in life, you just have to go with it! Society has so many rules already! How long should I wait before I call him back? When should he meet my family? When should we make it official? It's these little questions that make life way too complicated. I find it so much easier to just go with the flow. If you know it's real, then it will all work itself out. No need to worry about all these damn rules! Live. Laugh.Love!