I'm not even sure what to title this blog, but I figure I'll leave it up to you to add your own title after reading.

I've been living in the DC metro area for almost 3 years. During this time, I've bumped into a number of fairly attractive single black men. If I were to go more in depth, I'm sure I would be able to write a book about my experience with dating in the district. I started this blog to update friends about my not-so-interesting life. After some recent disappointments, I decided to stay away from blogging. It was almost depressing. Girl meets guy - guy appears to be all that and a bag of chips! Then somewhere along the line, something goes wrong!

It's a story that I'm so use to. I'm at a point in life where I want to just give up...but when I start thinking about it... I'm only 24! I'm sure I'm going to have more disappointments dating. I honestly don't think I can go through with it. I just can't deal with the constant excuses, the constant lies! To be quite frank - I think it's absolutely ridiculous!

Some may say I can't always blame the men...but since I think I'm perfect (sarcasm!), I refuse to blame myself!

I'm more irritated than anything! Ugh!
I'll be back... I promise!

eHarmony is really trying to get me to join. The price is so tempting... but I'm so damn cheap! $59.85! Ahhhh! To pay or not to pay! That is the answer! I definitely do not need to spend money for this type of thing. For one... I have no clue what the guys look like. What if I join today & cancel tomorrow? Do you think they'll refund my money? Should I risk it?

Answers people! I guess I really don't need to join. I mean... what's the point!? I'll just go out more...and hope that I meet someone. :)

I'll update you on my decision! I have until Oct. 5th.

Single Rant!

• It sucks being the only single person in the room. I find it be a tad bit embarrassing at times. You know the part I hate the most? When a good song comes on, and all the couples hit the dance floor! So I'm standing there hoping that a single guy can come by and ask me to dance. But of course, it doesn't happen.

• As I get older, I am going to have to experience the wedding of a former love interest. Although I can't think of any that has happen yet, I can't help but feel a bit annoyed by that. The fact that I was not able to snag them up (or maybe that's a good thing)! I received some news earlier that a friend (former fling) was engaged. So the first thing that came to mind was... "Are you serious?" He just texted me the other day... etc., etc., etc. But then the bitterness went away. I decided to send my congrats to the happy couple. I would hate for someone not to be happy for me when I find someone that I want to spend the rest of my life with.

• Oh did I mention I absolutely hate liars!? I do believe I am a very easygoing individual. I just ask that you be honest with me! That's it!

• I need a drink! I'm going to check out this event on Thursday at Station 9. It seems pretty interesting. It's like a poetry/networking/happy hour... Seems interesting!

I'm off to bed (I think)

Where to Find a Nice Guy...

Today's Shmuleyism
"A good man, while not easy to find, is possible as long as you look in the right places, and the right places mean venues that foster purpose, compassion, hard work and spiritual commitment."

I love reading Rabbi Shmuley articles on Oprah.com.

Here's what he wrote about where you can find a nice guy. I'm so going to take note! :)

The Best Places to Find a Good Man

• Churches, synagogues or mosques: "There will you find men with a spiritual disposition," Rabbi Shmuley says.
• Bookstores: Here, you'll find men who are intelligent, he says.
• Charity events: Volunteer to work with charitable organizations and attend charity events to find men with heart, Rabbi Shmuley says. "[Charity events] usually draw men with a social conscience," he says.
• On dates set up by friends: Your friends will most likely be discerning in who they'll introduce you to, Rabbi Shmuley says.
• In the military: "The military usually draws really good guys," he says. "They're heroes—men with a sense of mission."
• At work: Rabbi Shmuley says he's not opposed to office romances. "In a serious office are usually serious, hardworking and respectful men who aren't peering down your shirt and they aren't getting bombed at a bar, and they're also right there in your backyard," he says.
• Libraries: These are quiet, contemplative settings that often attract intellectual guys, Rabbi Shmuley says.
• Concert halls: Find cultured men who love music at these venues, he says.
• Weddings: Weddings have a great romantic atmosphere, and commitment phobes usually stay away from them, Rabbi Shmuley says.
• Lectures and debates: Such events usually attract a higher quality guy.
• Coffeehouses and poetry recitals: Seek out the sensitive, nice guys who might frequent these places.

Yes, you're cheap!

#1 - If you think it's ok to entertain at home on the first date... yes you're cheap! Don't start with the whole, I feel more comfortable at home. Or the best one.. I don't like crowds! Ummm... I don't like crowds either, that doesn't mean we have to be restricted to the confines of your house! I'm not going to lie, during my "young & dumb" days, I settled for the date at his apartment. Now that I am a little bit wiser, I am very much aware of the reasons why he bought me to this house. It was literally...easy access to him. She's here...it's cheaper...she's going to get some drinks...we're going to sit on the couch and watch a movie...and one thing leads to the other! STOP! If we've been dating for a while, yes..of course..a dinner & a movie in the house is fine! However, if we're getting to know each other, staying at home is not the way.

Women, let's be real. We know from DAY ONE if a guy is... "sleep-able." You drew an image in your mind of the both of you an intimate way. 9 times out of 10, you guys don't get to that point...because of course...he says and/or does something stupid! Don't you just hate that?

Then you're back to square one!

But where was I?? Oh yes, being cheap! If you are one of the cheap ones out there, then here are a dating tips (via AskMen.com):

• The coffee date

Cafes are great for first dates as they're casual and you'll likely only be footing the bill for a couple of lattes and biscotti. Unlike a bar, where one drink can easily escalate into many if things are going well, a coffee date will likely never evolve beyond a single refill. If you can, choose a cafe that is part of a bookstore. The added benefit here is you can position yourself as literati.
Estimated cost: $5-$10. Price may vary depending upon the number of refills and inclusion of biscotti or savories.

• The hike or bike ride

If you're really hard up, this may be your best bet. Granted, this is only a viable option if you live within close vicinity to a hiking trail. Hiking gives you an excellent opportunity to show off your rugged masculinity. Catch a wild rabbit with your bare hands and barbecue it for your soon-to-be betrothed while trekking through the backcountry.

Estimated cost: $5-$10. You'll want to bring along some water, fruit and other snacks.

• The art gallery

Most art galleries have one day of the week where entry is discounted (if not free). Take advantage of this opportunity to take your date out for some quality culture. Spend some time reading up on the current exhibits prior to your date. This way, you can at least maintain the faade that you have your finger on the pulse of the art world.

Estimated cost: $0-$10. Ideally, this one is expense-free, but if you spring for a few postcards or a poster, the cost may go up a bit.

• The picnic

If you don't live near a large body of water, a park will do here. The key is to find a locale that has scenic (preferably awe-inspiring) vistas. If a lengthy drive is required to reach your final destination, all the better. It will provide ample opportunity for you to connect with your date along the way. Only a few simple items are required to make your picnic basket impress: a halfway decent bottle of wine, some brie, bread, and fresh fruit. It's simple (and cheap), but it works.

Estimated cost: $15-$40. The price varies according to how extravagant and decadent you want to be here. Deli sandwiches, chips and water will likely only set you back 15 bucks. Brie, wine and fruit will increase your tab, but impress more.

• The winery

If you're a neophyte when it comes to wine tasting, you may want to watch Sideways prior so the words "piquant bouquet" roll off your tongue smoothly. For those living far from wine country, another option is a local brewery (which can be found just about anywhere). The alcohol acts as a social lubricant and is typically free (or heavily discounted). If you hit a brewery right around happy hour, you might even score free appetizers!

Estimated cost: $0-$20. This assumes that the tasting evolves into knocking a few back and perhaps a small plate for the two of you to share.

Desperate times...

I think I might be getting desperate folks!

Well not really, but honestly... I really do believe I am. So a few weeks ago, I saw an ad on TV about eHarmony. The ad basically promoted their free communication weekend. One of the reasons I didn't join eHarmony before was because of the cost. I just couldn't fathom spending $100+ to subscribe to their site. I honestly don't care if it was for 6 months or 6 years. The internet is free darnit!

Of course...being the person that I am... I decided to join. I believe I joined that Friday evening. So I created my profile (which took about half hour), then I started hoping for the best! I honestly believe I may have lied about my personality! I started questioning myself. lol. Like, do I really care how much a guy makes? Does it really matter if he has kids? I thought I had all this figured out until I created my profile. I started answer No to a lot of those questions. It's like... I just wanted them to match me up with someone. Anywho...So I get to the site after all of that.

Right off the back, I realized what was wrong. They didn't show pictures! WTH! So I'm suppose to assume that the guy that I'm talking to is attractive! Booo eHarmony! So I started the whole "Start Communication" with a few people that appeared to be attractive. Meaning, they fit the height requirement. LOL. The whole catch to this free communication weekend thing is, the person needs to communicate with you or else... what's the point. So by the end of the free communication weekend, I think I got to the final stage with ONE person. (Not that final stage).

Long story short... I don't believe in this eHarmony crap!

I'm just going to stick to doing it the ole fashion way. Or maybe I should go to the library or something. *SHRUGS*

Oh well... The life I live I tell ya!

Random Weekend in DC

So when I'm bored... this is what I do! I play around my computer. Please lord find me some new friends.. lol.

So this weekend I decided that I didn't want to stay in. I went to salon, got my hair deep conditioned...then I went to get my nails done... I got there, and it was closed due to renovations! Go freaking figure! I knew it was a hole in the wall..but I didn't think they did too. lol

Anywho, I decided to take a quick nap... then go to the nail salon in Pentagon City. I knew they were going to be a bit pricey, but I figure...what the heck... It's all about me. So after the nap, got dressed for the night and went on my way to Pentagon City.

I got my nails done (and it looks pretty nice by the way) and my eyebrows waxed. I love being a woman! :) Then I started my journey to DC. I stopped at my favorite restaurant, Alero. Ok...it was obvious that I came on the wrong night. No men! Well no men worth looking at. So I decided to get a couple of drinks then head to Jin. Jin was not bad, however, I felt weird being there alone. I kept looking at my phone hoping someone would text me so I can look like I might be waiting for someone. Again...no MAJOR eye candy... so after a couple of G-Spots (that's my fav. drink there), I decided to go home! So I'm walking down U St. I'm thinking why the hell didn't I use the bathroom before i left. Those drinks were coming right through me.

I sat down to think of a good spot to use the rest room without having to wait in line. All of sudden, a white guy said hi to me. I say Hi and think nothing of it. After I sent my text to my friend, he asked... "Can I ask you for a huge favor" (he had a French accent.. so I'm like... hmmmm... lol). So I gave him that "look!" He proceeded to ask me to accompany him into this swingers club because they don't allow men in by themselves. It was one of those things that caught me off guard because I'm thinking to myself... if I was a lil meaner, I would've probably walked away... but being the good Samaritan (and crazy person) that I am.. I said yes. I figure I go right in with him...and walk out soon after. So honestly..the place was empty. So I wasn't that uncomfortable. I decided to get a drink and walk out. And that's exactly what I did.

After that... I realized I need to make new friends...and FAST! I mean, I really couldn't find ONE person to hang with! WOW! Times like these make you wonder! So I decided I'm going to do my best to frequent some professional networking groups.

Stay tuned...