Finances

I honestly could care less what a guy is making! I'm a lot of things, but gold digger - I am not! My only issue when it comes to money and men, happens to be when a guy continually talks about how "broke" he is! We all go through the ups and downs when it comes to finances - Understandable! However, it's a huge turnoff for MOST women, when a guy claims to be broke a lot. I don't want to know your money issues! I mean, seriously! We're not married, your finances does not affect me in any sort of way right now! Financial issues is something we all have to face sometime or another. The economy is not looking the great right now, so I'm definitely not expecting people to be in the best of shape when it comes to finances. However, if you're employed...I just don't need to hear about it! When times are hard for me, I don't go around letting people know. That's my business! No one likes hanging out with the person that never has money.

So men, it's ok to be broke...it's just not ok to say you're broke...all the time!

Where are they now?

I find myself sitting here thinking about some artists from the 80's, 90's and even in the new millenium that have appeared to have fallen off the face of this earth. So I ask, where are they now?

Prime example - TQ. He came out back in the 90's with one of my favorite songs "Westside." I really wish I was from Cali after hearing that song! Oh yea, what happened to Rome? Uh, Ideal? Cocoa Brown (although I really didn't see them having much of a "career")? I mean, what's really good? I'm just sad that a lot of good artists just seem to have left the music scene all together. I'm sure a lot of them are probably doing some behind the scenes work, but I would LOVE it if they would just come out...for once...for me! :) Come out, come out...wherever you are! :)

My Sorority Life

So I found something that I actually enjoy doing, and there is no one out there that's going to make me feel bad about doing it! I'm addicted to an application on facebook called Sorority Life! It's definitely one of the most popular applications on facbeook right now! I do believe there is an application on Myspace as well.

In a nutshell, you earn money and Brownie points by defeating another person (house). You get to dress up in these FABULOUS outfits (as you can see on the right - my girl is rocking a very HOT bathing suit!) I paid 19 brownie points for her! Trust me, it's not that easy to get up to 19 points, unless of course you choose to complete one of the offers. By offers I mean, submitting your e-mail/credit card/etc. to SPAM! You can also gain brownie points by going to the next level (one point per level) and major achievements! I absolutely love this game! If you're a woman (i'm sure men can join to, but it just seem weird when a guy is known as a sister) please join! It's super fun! It's super fun and super addictive!

I hope everyone enjoyed their extended weekend! I know I did! I must say, it didn't go by that fast! I guess I'll get my things together for work tomorrow!

Have a wonderful evening and hope you enjoy the rest of your week!

Well, Cosmo Said It!

A friend of mine posted a comment from Cosmo. To summarize - if a man calls you between the hours of 12:00 pm - 5:00 pm, he's definitely interested in you. That does make sense for the most part! I mean, assuming he has a 9-5 type of job, then I would definitely feel good knowing that he was thinking about me while he was at work. But we all know it's not THAT simple! If that was the case, we wouldn't have so many books out there telling women what they need to do in order to find Mr. Right! There wouldn't be so many dating shows out there! Honestly, if it was really THAT simple, I believe the world would be a better place. I do not claim to know much about men, because if I did, I think I wouldn't be writing this right now! I would be in bed with my guy right now watching a movie or something, but I'm not!

So back to this comment from Cosmo - So of course, I'm playing the devil's advocate. Just because a guy calls you between those hours does not mean that he's interested in you. I can look at it like he's just making plans for the night! I would hate for women out there to have false hopes! It's very likely that you can still be considered a booty call if he chooses to call you during those hours. This whole comment led me to think about some of my past relationships. Although the majority of men that I had some type of long term connection with, for the most part, we spoke during the day.

So I will say there might be some truth to this article, however, that can not be the case for everyone. I wonder what type of guys give their "expert opinions" to Cosmo? Are they happily married men? Attractive single men who some may consider "players?" Who are these men?

I'm not even going to lose sleep over this! If a man wants you, he will find his own unique way to show it.

I hope everyone is having a FABULOUS Memorials Day Weekend!

Just don't ask!

By now, many of you may be very much aware that I get annoyed by very minor things! I guess it could be the Capricorn in me!

But many of you will agree with me on this one! I get really, really annoyed when someone goes out of their way to make plans with me, and when that time comes, no call/no show! Don't people get fired for that? I mean really! I basically accepted your invitation, cleared out MY VERY IMPORTANT SCHEDULE and now, you're basically going to flake on me? The nerve!

Summer Travel Plans

I really need to get out more! So far, I have two trips planned (meaning tickets have been purchased) - Atlantic City @ the end of the month and Las Vegas mid-July! I was hoping to get a trip to Jamaica in there, somehow. But I need to get some other folks to join in! I would also like to take a trip to VA Beach. Maybe for the 4th of July weekend! That sounds pretty cool!

I'm definitely thinking about going down to ATL... Let's see if I'm still an invited guest! :)

Suggestions are welcome!

Hope everyone had a great weekend!

Today's meal - Meatloaf! - Yummy! (I hope)

Article of the Day: His Idea of Girlfriend Material

If you’re used to hearing the line “I’m just not ready for a relationship,” then please, keep reading. One important thing to bear in mind: Guys decide early on whether they’re willing to forgo their freedom to become monogamous with you. To prove to him it’s a sacrifice that he’ll actually want to make, be sure that you...

Pick Up the Check
Relax, we’re not saying you have to pony up for every meal. But if you reach for the bill, he’ll know you’re a self-sufficient chick who’s not just looking for a free ride. “If a girl looks away or suddenly gets distracted when the check comes, I feel taken advantage of,” says Sammy,* 25. “When a woman insists on picking up the occasional tab though, it shows she’s interested in me as a person, not in what I can give her.”

Have Friday-Night Plans
Sure, you want to see him, and he appreciates that. But when you bombard him with a steady stream of e-mails and text messages asking if he wants to do something this weekend, it’s suffocating. What he needs to move forward with you is reassurance that you have your own life — one that doesn’t revolve around him. “My girlfriend was the first woman I’d ever dated who repeatedly told me ‘Already booked’ because she had all this other stuff going on,” says Amir, 29. “Soon, though, I realized that if I wanted to see her, I’d have to make plans in advance. That made me want her even more!”

Love His Guy Stuff
“My idea of long-term material is someone who will give me a high five when I’ve had a great day on the golf course or night at the poker table and who will laugh with me when I tell her about all the stupid stuff my friends did at our bar crawl,” says Carlo, 31. Yes, it’s asking a lot (we don’t expect you to embrace our strip-joint jaunts), but guys don’t want a girlfriend who’s going to bitch and moan about our manly activities or the company we keep.

Unleash Your Lust
When a guy looks ahead to his future with a girl, he wants to imagine crazy nights of wake-the-neighbors sex. So if you’re already an eager little bed devil to begin with, he knows he has a lot to look forward to in a relationship. “I dated this girl briefly who was great in every way, but when it came to sex, she was really inhibited. Instead of enjoying sex, it always seemed like she was doing me some kind of favor,” says Lucas, 29. “I knew it would just get worse as time went on, so I decided that I had to break it off.”

Patron

Patron is the Devil...

That is all

And America's Next Top Model is....

Teyona Anderson


I'm happy! Go TEYONA! Thanks goodness it wasn't Allison! Ugh!

Night, Night!

Bye Aminat!

So, Aminat was sent home! :(
I hope Teyona can win!
If she doesn't, then I'm so through!

Dear eHarmony...

Dear eHarmony,

According to my records, my membership ends today (May 13, 2009 @ 11:59 pm). I do not wish to extend my membership because I honestly dont' think that your service is worth it. I have yet to find a guy on your site that I "clicked" with. I've been on your site for 6 months! I can't blame you entirely, but I will blame your false advertisement.

If I was unmatchable, I really wish you would've told me that from the get go! That way I would've saved my money! I may be picky, but I mean COME ON! I'm sure eHarmony works for some people, but it just didn't quite work for me. In the meantime and in between time, I will take my chance going to coffee shops, lounges, etc. to find my soul mate. I'm ending my experiment with online dating!

If I choose to go back to online dating, I will not use your services. Although "guided communication" may work for some people, it was very annoying going through five (5) different steps before I was able to exchange random e-mails with someone. Sometimes, it will take more than 2 weeks to get to the "Final stage." You have to understand, the majority of people on your site actually have a JOB. The only time most of us can communicate would be in the evening after a very long day at work.

Eventhough my letter may seem negative, I do wish your site much luck during these hard times!

Sincerely,

Former eHarmonite!

Twitter is gone!

I just didn't need it in my life! Facebook, Myspace & my blog is enough! And to be quite honest with you, I did not understand the big HYPE about it! Ah well... can't say it was good while it lasted because it really wasn't!

Goodbye Twitter!

Friendship

Is a word we use everyday
Most the time we use it in the wrong way
Now you can look the word up, again and again
But the dictionary doesn't know the meaning of friends

And if you ask me, you know, I couldn't be much help
Because A friend is somebody you judge for yourself
Some are ok, and they treat you real cool
But some mistake kindness for being a fool

Those that know me well, know that I'm not one to be around a large group of people. I would like to think that I've always been this way, but to be quite honest with you... this probably started recently. As in the past two (2) years.

During my college years, I definitely had a large group of friends. Although I would only share my inner most thoughts/feelings with a very small group, I definitely had a great group around me.

Since I moved to this area, I've found it hard to maintain such a friendship. I know there are people I've met that I definitely consider a friend, but I don't really feel as though there's a collective group of people that I can depend on. I can probably start naming names, but I don't want anyone to feel as though I think our "friendship" is meaningless. There are times when I literally drop what it is that I'm doing for some people, but I feel as though they wouldn't do the same for me. We all know that you don't give to get something, but really! I don't' want to put 100% into something, when you're barely putting in 50... The same goes for romantic relationships! I've accepted the fact that Mr. Right probably won't come around anytime soon (and that's fine!), so in the meantime (and in between time), I decided to work on what it is that I want from a relationship. No more will I settle for mediocrity!

Earlier today, I was speaking with my old college roommate! She was the DEFINITION of a GREAT friend back in college. When you saw her, more than likely, I was not too far behind. i must say, the thought of college just brings back all these great memories! I really wish I could go back!

Please excuse me... my mind is just all over the place this evening! To the few friends I do have here in DC, I do want you guys to know that I definitely love and appreciate each and everyone of you!

xoxo

Jamie Foxx- "Blame It" SPOOF- (BARACK OBAMA)

Annoyed!

Ever had that day when any and everything just annoys you? Of course you do! You're human! Well ladies and gents, I'm having that kinda day!

I pray I make it past 4:30!

Happy Mother's Day

How did you find the energy, Mom

To do all the things you did,
To be teacher, nurse and counselor
To me, when I was a kid.

How did you do it all, Mom,
Be a chauffeur, cook and friend,
Yet find time to be a playmate,
I just can’t comprehend.

I see now it was love, Mom
Weeping, sharing
That made you come whenever I'd call,
Your inexhaustible love, Mom
And I thank you for it all.

Follow me...

So I joined! I know, I know... Bad, Bad Me'Shell!

Jennifer made me into a "twitter-hoe." -- her words!

So if you want to get up to the minute updates on my INTERESTING life...come follow me! :)

Follow me on Twitter

Cinco de Mayo Pictures

So a few friends and I went to Alero (Mexican restaurant) to celebrate Cinco de Mayo yesterday! As usual, it was packed and the weather did not make it any better. Here are some pixs!

Rainy Days...

Rain rain go away,
Come again another day.
Little Johnny wants to play;
Rain, rain, go to Spain,
Never show your face again!

To Braid It Is!

Please excuse me if all you notice is forhead... I just look at it like this - God has blessed me with a bigger brain! :)

Rant: My Weight

You know what bothers me most? Hearing from others that I need to gain weight! Granted, I'm not underweight... I'm actually smack down in the middle of a healthy weight for my height!

You know what? Instead of me gaining weight, why don't you lose it! I was actually a tad bit thicker back in high school and the beginning of my college years. Then, I realized that I wasn't too happy with my size. At that point, I knew I had to do something about it.

Please don't take this personal - I just heard this recently and I just had to say SOMETHING! Slim is definitely not a bad thing! So stop making me feel bad about it!

Sheesh!