We do not have to get caught in the middle of other people's issues.
-- Melody Beattie
Learning to respect boundaries, our own and other people's, eliminates much of the stress that hinders relationships. Accepting the behavior and the opinions of our friends as legitimate for them allows our relationships to teach us tolerance and patience and love. Our journey on this planet is not about "fixing" or controlling others, but about loving them wholly, just as we want to be loved.
We need other people. Our humanity is enhanced by our mutual experiences. But we also need to let others learn from their mistakes and their own experiences, rather than to help them avoid what they need for their growth. We hate to see our friends in pain. Our compassion is triggered when trouble trips them. But their journey must be inviolate. We'll only prolong their struggle by intervening where we aren't needed.
It's hard to back away when a friend is in trouble. But telling a friend you love and support him or her may give them the strength they need.
Wednesday, April 15, 2009
Tuesday, April 14, 2009
Thought of the Day
No human creature can give orders to love.
--George Sand
If we're trying to get others to love us, all we're really doing is trying to be in control. Trying to control others can be a powerful drug. Remember, we can't control others. We can't make others love us. That Power has control, not us.
So, what do we need to do? Turn things over to Him and just be ourselves. Sure, it can scare us to just be ourselves. The truth is, not everyone will love us. But if we're honest about who we are, others will respect us. We'll like ourselves better. And we'll have a better chance of loving others and being loved.
Prayer for the Day
I pray to have my need for control lifted from me. I pray to be rid of self-will.
Action for the Day
Today, I'll list five ways my self-will - my need to control - has gotten me in trouble.
--George Sand
If we're trying to get others to love us, all we're really doing is trying to be in control. Trying to control others can be a powerful drug. Remember, we can't control others. We can't make others love us. That Power has control, not us.
So, what do we need to do? Turn things over to Him and just be ourselves. Sure, it can scare us to just be ourselves. The truth is, not everyone will love us. But if we're honest about who we are, others will respect us. We'll like ourselves better. And we'll have a better chance of loving others and being loved.
Prayer for the Day
I pray to have my need for control lifted from me. I pray to be rid of self-will.
Action for the Day
Today, I'll list five ways my self-will - my need to control - has gotten me in trouble.
Sunday, April 12, 2009
Dear Metro
Dear Metro,
First let me begin by saying that I have been a faithful customer for 3 years. I began my metro experience shortly after I moved to the DC area. I must say, when I first moved here, I was delighted at the cleanliness of the metro stations. I also enjoyed the fact that you had the estimated arrival time for the trains! Totally cool feature!
I've had some good experiences and some not-so-good experiences with your service. First things first... I ride the bus every morning and afternoon. One thing I can not tolerate is metro bus drivers that do not know where they're going. They rely on the riders to tell them where to go! If the normal bus driver is unavailable, I say you find people that are familiar with the particular route before you send them off with nothing but a few mapquest directions! I don't really mind this happening in the evening, but not in the morning! Many of us would actually prefer being on time to work.
There may be some things that I just don't understand about the operation behind metro. However, as a customer, it comes off as poor management.
You may want to fix that!
Sincerely,
Me'Shell
First let me begin by saying that I have been a faithful customer for 3 years. I began my metro experience shortly after I moved to the DC area. I must say, when I first moved here, I was delighted at the cleanliness of the metro stations. I also enjoyed the fact that you had the estimated arrival time for the trains! Totally cool feature!
I've had some good experiences and some not-so-good experiences with your service. First things first... I ride the bus every morning and afternoon. One thing I can not tolerate is metro bus drivers that do not know where they're going. They rely on the riders to tell them where to go! If the normal bus driver is unavailable, I say you find people that are familiar with the particular route before you send them off with nothing but a few mapquest directions! I don't really mind this happening in the evening, but not in the morning! Many of us would actually prefer being on time to work.
There may be some things that I just don't understand about the operation behind metro. However, as a customer, it comes off as poor management.
You may want to fix that!
Sincerely,
Me'Shell
Wednesday, April 8, 2009
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
Press Play
So I may be in the minority here (or not).. But if you saw the play icon, would you expect it to play or pause?I figured if I press the play icon, it would do just that...PLAY!
Pandora, you really need to fix that! It's very confusing! Here I am thinking something is wrong with my speakers, when in fact...Pandora just does not know the difference between Play & Pause!
Ok, enough about my press play/pause rant! :)
I hope everyone is having a fabulous week! I am getting ready to watch Milk. The movie received a number of awards, so I hope it's good. Then again, Sean Penn is in it... NUFF SAID!
I'll be back soon (I think)
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Thought of the Day
I'm apart of a group, who I consider my second family quite frankly. They provide a lot of great information along with tons of laughter. One thing I receive every day from a member of the group, is the thought of day. So I will share today's thought with you.
To believe in something not yet proved and to underwrite it with our lives; it is the only way we can leave the future open.--Lillian Smith
Today stands before us, ready for our involvement. And it will offer us opportunities for personal growth and occasions to help another make progress on her path to the future. Challenges are to be expected. They further our purpose. They foster our maturity.
How different it is, for many of us, to look forward to today with secure anticipation, to trust in what the future holds! We can still remember, all too vividly perhaps, the darker periods in our lives, periods that seemed to hold no promise; a time when we dreaded the future, fearing it would only compound those awful times.
The fear and the dread are not gone completely. They hover about us, on occasion. They no longer need to darken all of a day, however. We can recognize their presence as parts of our whole, not all of it. How free we are, today! Our choices are many.
I can step toward today with assurance, reaching out to others along the way, trusting that my accumulated steps add stability to my future.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
I'm not even sure what to title this blog, but I figure I'll leave it up to you to add your own title after reading.
I've been living in the DC metro area for almost 3 years. During this time, I've bumped into a number of fairly attractive single black men. If I were to go more in depth, I'm sure I would be able to write a book about my experience with dating in the district. I started this blog to update friends about my not-so-interesting life. After some recent disappointments, I decided to stay away from blogging. It was almost depressing. Girl meets guy - guy appears to be all that and a bag of chips! Then somewhere along the line, something goes wrong!
It's a story that I'm so use to. I'm at a point in life where I want to just give up...but when I start thinking about it... I'm only 24! I'm sure I'm going to have more disappointments dating. I honestly don't think I can go through with it. I just can't deal with the constant excuses, the constant lies! To be quite frank - I think it's absolutely ridiculous!
Some may say I can't always blame the men...but since I think I'm perfect (sarcasm!), I refuse to blame myself!
I'm more irritated than anything! Ugh!
I'll be back... I promise!
I've been living in the DC metro area for almost 3 years. During this time, I've bumped into a number of fairly attractive single black men. If I were to go more in depth, I'm sure I would be able to write a book about my experience with dating in the district. I started this blog to update friends about my not-so-interesting life. After some recent disappointments, I decided to stay away from blogging. It was almost depressing. Girl meets guy - guy appears to be all that and a bag of chips! Then somewhere along the line, something goes wrong!
It's a story that I'm so use to. I'm at a point in life where I want to just give up...but when I start thinking about it... I'm only 24! I'm sure I'm going to have more disappointments dating. I honestly don't think I can go through with it. I just can't deal with the constant excuses, the constant lies! To be quite frank - I think it's absolutely ridiculous!
Some may say I can't always blame the men...but since I think I'm perfect (sarcasm!), I refuse to blame myself!
I'm more irritated than anything! Ugh!
I'll be back... I promise!
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